Some have big clear crisp dreams they go after. Some tell themselves that happiness is wanting what you already have until they convince themselves that settling is bliss. And pretend to have found the garden of ZEN on the way to drop the waste to the bin.
And then are the ones who fail to do that. To settle. But they also fail to chase any dreams, big or small. They just are not cut to make it happen.
And then there are people like me – refusing to lock all their hopes and energy in one stone-curved dream.
And not because I am not an ambitious or hard working individual. I am both.
But because life taught me that dreams and ambitions are at best situational. My Everest I was climbing and conquering during my early professional years is very different from my Everest during the years when my relationship hit the bottom. And a lot more different again when we managed to put that mountain behind us and we struggled for many years to get to the baby no. 2.
And then I thought for a few short weeks that I had it all. FINALLY. Only to learn that my Everest was still ahead of me and we had a long and painstaking battle with our baby’s health at stake.
So, you see, depending on the circumstances, my mountain had a different definition. That is what makes it situational.
Many think that our dreams are what defines us. For me, it is not our dreams, it is our relentless commitment to climb our own version of the Everest. Understand that while nobody else will do it in our place, it is OK to accept help and encouragement on the way. It is OK to stop to catch your breath. It is OK to live a little in the process.
And it is OK if while you are on your journey, you lift your head and gaze up only to realize you are no longer climbing your mountain and you need to refocus.
It is OK. And don’t let others bully you into a snap answer to a snap question: what are your dreams?
I am Crista and I am dream fluid.